
Technology is linear. It’s formulas. It’s numbers. It’s not capable of nuance. However, we’ve dressed it up to resemble real life. It seems real, even though we know better (most of the time).
Social media is the perfect incapsulation of that formula all dressed up. It is designed to give you exactly what you want and what it thinks you want. In its most dangerous forms, it can trap you in an echo chamber and radicalize you. In its lighter forms, it can guide you through images and videos to define yourself. It can lure you into believing in absolutes.
It’s our monster, and like any good monster, it’s outgrown the vision of its creator.
The communities you find online are different, but really they’re all the same. They are absolutes begging us to define ourselves for the sake of the algorythm. And the algorythm only works in absolutes, it doesn’t work in the in-between. It’s begging us to define ourselves. It’s the only way it can survive.
A while ago I was watching an influencer’s Instagram stories, and she was answering questions that followers had submitted.
“I’m new here. Are you a crunchy mom?”
We have to know if the digital spaces we participate in are “for us”. The internet is so segmented that my internet is not your internet. My internet is feeding me content for me, showing me posts and suggesting images you may never see.
“Crunchy mom”, a mom who strives to feed her kids organic foods, keep things natural and avoid “toxins”, is just another label. And, honestly a dangerous one, “healthy”, “natural” and “organic” have been weaponized by a movement that is just a click or two away from antivax and antiscience corners of the internet.
But it’s not just moms. It’s everyone and it’s all the time. The feed is based on labels and hashtags.
And, we’ve molded ourselves to feed that formula. Labeled ourselves ten different ways to find community.
But it’s not who we are. We are the definition of nuance. We are all the things, all at once, and all the time. We’re all the things that technology can’t accurately capture.
