I’ve been on a strong lady kick lately with my book choices. In the past I steered clear of any kind of memoir thinking it would be too preachy. But as predictable as it may seem, sometimes hearing advice from a strong, successful woman is exactly the motivation you need to keep you focused and dedicated to your goals.
In “Yes, Please”, Amy Poehler keeps it real. Real about her career, SNL, being a mom, success, divorce, love and everything in between. It never feels preachy or condescending. It just feels honest. Honest advice and stories from a hilarious successful woman who doesn’t claim to be perfect.
There are two big lessons I’m taking from “Yes, Please.” The first being that it’s OK to ask and get help on the way to reaching your goals and living your life. If someone is offering to help (someone that cares for you and has the right intentions) then gladly accept it…don’t feel guilty about needing help. This rings really true to me, especially lately. A year and half ago, Frank and I moved from SF to the L.A. area with no jobs and lots of things we wanted to accomplish. We moved in to my parents house while we got settled and found jobs. About six months later, we both had steady jobs and a year and half later…here we are: planning a wedding, getting ready to move out and celebrating a year at our jobs.
At first though, we needed a lot of help and at first it felt a little humiliating and defeating. But I’ve come to realize we’re lucky to get the help and when my parents need anything, we’re happy to help. This is something that applies to career choices as well, if someone is willing to help you out with a job or promotion….take it. You never know when you’ll be able to return the favor for someone else.
The other lesson that I’m taking is that it makes no sense to be in competition with your peers. It’s counter-productive. It’s to your benefit to surround yourself by strong and smart people.
“I want to be around people that do things. I don’t want to be around people anymore that judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people that dream and support and do things.”
This is a hard one to practice. It’s only natural to want to get ahead and when people around you are succeeding, it’s hard not to feel jealous. To not get that sneaky thought, “Why not me?” The truth is though you should cheer your friends on. We should all make it, having successful and smart friends can only help you.
Above everything though, this book is hilarious. It’s motivating, smart and hilarious. Highly recommended!