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Just Read: Yes, Please


I’ve been on a strong lady kick lately with my book choices.  In the past I steered clear of any kind of memoir thinking it would be too preachy. But as predictable as it may seem, sometimes hearing advice from a strong, successful woman is exactly the motivation you need to keep you focused and dedicated to your goals.

In “Yes, Please”, Amy Poehler keeps it real. Real about her career, SNL, being a mom, success, divorce, love and everything in between. It never feels preachy or condescending. It just feels honest. Honest advice and stories from a hilarious successful woman who doesn’t claim to be perfect.


There are two big lessons I’m taking from “Yes, Please.” The first being that it’s OK to ask and get help on the way to reaching your goals and living your life. If someone is offering to help (someone that cares for you and has the right intentions) then gladly accept it…don’t feel guilty about needing help. This rings really true to me, especially lately. A year and half ago, Frank and I moved from SF to the L.A. area with no jobs and lots of things we wanted to accomplish. We moved in to my parents house while we got settled and found jobs. About six months later, we both had steady jobs and a year and half later…here we are: planning a wedding, getting ready to move out and celebrating a year at our jobs.

At first though, we needed a lot of help and at first it felt a little humiliating and defeating. But I’ve come to realize we’re lucky to get the help and when my parents need anything, we’re happy to help. This is something that applies to career choices as well, if someone is willing to help you out with a job or promotion….take it. You never know when you’ll be able to return the favor for someone else.

The other lesson that I’m taking is that it makes no sense to be in competition with your peers. It’s counter-productive. It’s to your benefit to surround yourself by strong and smart people.

“I want to be around people that do things. I don’t want to be around people anymore that judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people that dream and support and do things.”

This is a hard one to practice. It’s only natural to want to get ahead and when people around you are succeeding, it’s hard not to feel jealous. To not get that sneaky thought, “Why not me?” The truth is though you should cheer your friends on. We should all make it, having successful and smart friends can only help you.

Above everything though, this book is hilarious. It’s motivating, smart and hilarious. Highly recommended!





The Trouble with Staying Motivated

Last week was one of those weeks. Those weeks that feel like they passed in a blink of an eye but where nothing really happened. I spent most of last week recovering from my eventful and speedy road trip to SF. Work was busy busy with lots of work and some stress-inducing meetings. My week was a haze of caffeine, unhealthy food, work and sleep. By the end of the week I was just feeling so…unproductive. Sure I worked a full week, but I still felt (and continue to feel) unmotivated.

It’s a tough feeling to shake, so I thought I’d do a little bit of research on motivation. One of the first things that came to mind when I started thinking about motivation was social media. Every time we (the bigger “we” that we all belong to) eat healthy, go to the gym, get a new job, want to lose weight, we feel the need to announce it. There is no shortage of motivational pics and quotes.

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Do these work though? I’ll admit…I’m not completely cynical. But with no shortage of visual inspiration, the trickier part is turning this inspiration into motivation and that motivation into action.

Hand in hand with lack of motivation is constant procrastination. Tomorrow I’ll eat healthier, tomorrow I’ll work on that task. Tomorrow is a comforting thought when you want to avoid something. I read this article below and one of the many great points it made was emotional barriers. Sometimes there’s a bigger reason why you might be avoiding a task, usually fear. UGH. Isn’t being a reflective adult the WORST?

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I’m hoping writing out this post helps motivate me this week. I got pleeentyy of things I need to do this week. Big adult stuff I have to work on, posts I want to write, exercise to be done, and healthy food to be consumed. Wish me luck!